Find Your Passion Through Changing Your Perspective
What you see is not what I see. I might be able to understand your point of view when I adapt to seeing things from your perspective, but that does not mean that your picture will be backed by my senses and thought process that will allow your view to become a reality for to me. When is something “a reality” or “real” for you? Well, that is quite simple and backed by years of neurological research. You see, anything and everything that you experience every second you still breathe can be explained through connecting the dots on how the brain works. Since the day you were born, you experienced life in your own unique way, customized by your environment and awareness of what was going on around you and how you reacted to it emotionally.
There is so much power in scratching around in your brain and understanding of yourself. People don’t do it, because most of us have been raised to conform to the rules and regulations society instils in us or the way our parents choose to raise us. Yet, each of us are unique and very much misunderstood. Once you understand that hardwiring of your brain can be changed, things like your body, ego, and emotional state. You can use your mind instead of your mind using you. I’m not going to go further into the science to prove this point. My intention is only to share with you the story that led to me finding my passion again, changing my perspective and starting this website/blog.
From a very young age, I’ve always been told that I was special. Now I don’t have any real talent, well I mean nothing that I can pinpoint in any way shape or form.
I grew up always negotiating and adapting to my environment, all the while I was a sensitive and compassionate soul. Which means anything and everything affected me. I used to take things personally and always wanted to please or impress others, by being dutiful and understanding to all. This has cost me big time, but it has also provided me with opportunities to grow and expand my understanding of the human brain. I learned how to control my emotions (well 90%) of the time. I am, in fact, still learning after all these years.
Not very long ago an acquaintance told me out of the blue, “you are an exceptional person”. I have done nothing for this person, and they have not had any significant value to my life, but at that moment, she reminded me of who I am. Suddenly she became one of the most influential people in my life. She made me pause and reflect on my journey. I thought about all the times that I have felt inadequate. What an enormous waste of my tears and my time. Even in recent years where I’ve suffered significant losses, finding it difficult to find my passion after withdrawing from a family business that I used to run and just general life events. That was enough to send me straight into a great depression. I must admit, though, I came very close to being stuck in a frame of mind that did not serve. The losses just piled up around me, and every door I knocked on kept closing in my face. Even to this very day, there are still things that aren’t entirely where I’d like them to be, and you know what? That’s ok!
At this point, I would just like to focus on perspectives, my perspective. For the past two years of my life, I’ve felt incompetent and lost for the most part. I was living and doing everything I could to keep myself and my businesses alive. It did not work out well. I was overworked and underfunded and ended up being less creative. My ability to bounce back became weaker and weaker. So I took two years off. I applied for positions that had absolutely nothing to do with my area of expertise or my passions. There is nothing better than creating distance to see what your next move will be. People kept on asking me “what are you going to do now or next” (I always had a plan or some idea that I was chasing), so I can’t blame them for showing their interest or support. I had a plan, and suddenly I had nothing. It used to freak me out with worry when they looked at me weirdly for saying “I don’t know”, their reactions (from my perspective) always indicated that they were waiting for some sort of explanation, which I didn’t have. See how “perspectives” can be at the centre of your illusions of things? Do you see how the mind can create entirely different scenarios, depending on the information you feed it?
I didn’t have any obligation to tell them anything, but yet I believed that I had to, that it was “expected” of me and that was what I’ve always done. I must honestly confess that I have found a new sense of hope, a new sense of passion and creative thinking back. It is as if the playing field levelled out, giving you a whole new course or sense of direction. One that you’ve never even thought of exploring before., I think it’s ok to say “I DON’T KNOW”, honestly, I don’t think anyone knows what is next. Do you know what next? Nobody knows!? Right? So how would I know?
We envision a specific outcome and plan accordingly every single day. We always chase something, and when we achieve that goal, it’s still the next one. This way never really being content with what is. It always has to be better. From a business perspective, this is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as it stays a goal and doesn’t become an obsession. Do things that you love and have a passion for, don’t do it for the money and if you must do it for the money, still make sure that you like what you are doing even if you are doing multiple things that doesn’t make any sense to anyone else.
Spend time with yourself, find time to study a few aspects of the human brain you’ll be amazed at how much you can learn. How controlling your thoughts can help you from slipping into a state of depression, anger or fear. Take a step bank and expand your mind, then you’ll see how your perspective will change. You’ll be able to redefine the reality of possibility in your life.
You have one single life, live it now!